Your kids don't need perfection. They need you to keep showing up.
An online class for parents navigating divorce. Made by two therapists, a mom and a kid, who've been where you are.
We're Kerry and Palmer, a mom and a kid who've been through divorce, and who became family therapists in part because of it.
Kerry is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Palmer is a therapist who specializes in working with teens. Together we've spent fifteen years helping families get the hard part, the kids part, right.
This course is what we wish we'd had when we were in it.
What divorce does to kids, and what you can actually do about it.
You already know your kids aren't okay. Maybe you see it in how your teenager has stopped talking. Maybe your seven-year-old is suddenly angry at small things. Maybe your oldest has quietly picked sides, and you're watching it happen and don't know how to stop it. You didn't imagine this. Divorce is one of the events childhood researchers call an Adverse Childhood Experience. It leaves a real, measurable mark on how kids develop, how they handle stress, how they trust.
But here's what that research also shows: the mark divorce leaves is shaped far less by the fact of the divorce than by what happens around it. High conflict between parents. Kids being put in the middle. Alienation, even the unintentional kind. A child who has to manage an adult's emotions instead of having their own. Those are the things that cause the long-term damage. Those are the things that can be changed.
The work of protecting your kids through this isn't about hiding the divorce or pretending everything is fine. It's about specific, learnable skills: how to keep your kids out of the middle, how to stay connected when they're pulling away, how to build a two-home family that still feels like a family. Those skills are the course.
What you'll learn.
Six modules. Each one a specific, practical piece of the work. You can move through them at your own pace, and come back to any of them whenever you need.
Our Story and the Parents’ Creed: Protecting Kids Starts Here
We start with our own story. What we got right, what we got wrong, and what fifteen years of clinical work taught us about the first principles of protecting kids through divorce. You leave this module with a short, practical creed you can come back to when the hard moments hit.
Understanding Your Kid’s Emotional Landscape
What’s actually happening inside your child’s brain and body during divorce. How to read the signals that tell you they’re struggling, even when they won’t say so. Age-by-age guidance for kids five through eighteen.
Two Homes, One Consistent Life: Practical Ways to Support Your Child
How to build a "two-home family" that still feels like a family to your child. Concrete tools for shared routines, transitions, and the small daily rituals that do more than any big conversation ever could.
Caught in the Middle: Helping Your Child Navigate Parental Tension
The specific moves to keep your kids out of the conflict, even when your co-parent won’t do the same. How to recognize alienation early, and what to do (and not do) when you see it starting.
Keep Your Kids Talking: Staying Connected Through the Storm
When your child goes quiet, pulls away, or aligns with the other parent. How to stay connected without pushing. The everyday rituals that keep the door open, especially with teens.
Beyond Survival: Defining Who Your Family Will Become
The long view. How to move from surviving this transition to intentionally shaping what your family becomes on the other side. A framework for the family vision you’ll carry forward together.
Plus a short closing chapter. Kerry and Palmer sitting with you on the other side of the work, what to hold onto, what to keep practicing.
Meet Kerry and Palmer.
Kerry Stutzman
LMFT · Parent Educator · Clinical Supervisor · EMDR-trained
When my kids were young, I went through a divorce I did not see coming. I was already a therapist. I still got so much wrong. I watched my children start to carry things no child should carry, and I couldn't always see it clearly enough, fast enough, to stop it.
What I know now, from twenty-five years of clinical work, and from being the mom who walked through this, is that the parents who protect their kids best are not the ones who did divorce perfectly. There is no such thing. They're the ones who kept learning, kept showing up, kept getting better at the specific skills that matter. That's the work. That's what I teach.
Palmer Skudneski
MA MFT (Northwestern) · Teen Success Coach · Speaker
I was the kid. I'm not going to sugarcoat it. It shaped me, and not all in ways I would have chosen.
What I can tell you, now that I'm a therapist and I work with teenagers who are living what I lived, is that the single biggest factor in how a kid comes out of a divorce is not whether their parents got along. It's whether at least one adult stayed real with them. Stayed present. Didn't make them manage the grown-ups' feelings. That's a learnable thing. My job, alongside my mom, is to teach it.
From parents who've done this work.
"I came to this course angry. At my ex, at the situation, at myself. Six weeks later I wasn’t un-angry, but I had words for what was happening and things to actually do. My twelve-year-old started talking to me again around module four. I don’t know how to explain what that meant."
"I almost didn’t buy this. I’d already done the court-mandated divorce class and it was useless. This one is not useless. It’s the closest thing to sitting down with a family therapist I’ve found, and I could do it at 11pm after the kids were asleep."
"The module on alienation is the one that changed things for me. I’d been so focused on being right that I was missing what my son actually needed from me. Watching Kerry and Palmer talk about it together, a mom and her now-grown kid, made it real in a way I couldn’t have gotten from a textbook."
For attorneys, mediators, and therapists
If you're the one the family is calling.
You see divorce before it gets to us. You're the attorney on the intake call, the mediator in the room, the therapist holding the child's side of the story. The choices you help parents make in those early weeks shape what lands in their kids' long-term mental health.
We've put together a free set of resources for professionals. The Parents' Creed, our warning signs of alienation checklist, and a short Divorce Professionals Creed we developed alongside colleagues in family law. Use what's useful.
Enroll in the course.
One price. Lifetime access. Everything we'd tell a family in our office, available whenever you need it.
$137. One payment, lifetime access.
Six modules plus the closing chapter. Roughly three hours of video. Short reflection prompts between modules. Downloadable parents' creed and alienation warning-signs checklist.
You own it. You can revisit any module, anytime, forever. Your kids are going to need different things from you at different stages. We built this so you can come back.
30-day full refund, no questions asked.
No subscription. No upsells. One purchase.
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Questions parents ask us.
My ex isn't going to take this course. Is it still worth it for just me?
Is this course right for us? We're not in a high-conflict divorce.
My kids are older (or younger). Does this still apply?
How long does it take?
Is there a refund policy?
Is any of this religious?
Who is this course NOT for?
"Your kids don't need perfection. They need you to keep showing up."
That's the whole thing. We built the course to help you do it.
Whenever you're ready, we'll be here.