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Your kids don’t need perfection. They need you to keep showing up.

An online class for parents navigating divorce. Made by two therapists, a mom and a kid, who’ve been where you are.

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Watercolor portrait of Kerry Stutzman. Watercolor portrait of Palmer Skudneski.

We’re Kerry and Palmer, a mom and a kid who’ve been through divorce, and who became family therapists in part because of it.

Kerry is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Palmer is a therapist who specializes in working with teens. Together we’ve spent fifteen years helping families get the hard part, the kids part, right.

This course is what we wish we’d had when we were in it.

What divorce does to kids, and what you can actually do about it.

You already know your kids aren’t okay. Maybe you see it in how your teenager has stopped talking. Maybe your seven-year-old is suddenly angry at small things. Maybe your oldest has quietly picked sides, and you’re watching it happen and don’t know how to stop it. You didn’t imagine this. Divorce is one of the experiences childhood researchers call an Adverse Childhood Experience. It leaves a real, measurable mark on how kids develop, how they handle stress, how they trust.

Here’s what that research also shows: the mark divorce leaves is shaped far less by the fact of the divorce than by what happens around it. High conflict between parents. Kids put in the middle. Alienation, even the unintentional kind. A child who has to manage an adult’s emotions instead of having their own. Those are the things that cause the long-term damage. Those are the things that can be changed.

The work of protecting your kids through this isn’t about hiding the divorce or pretending everything is fine. It’s about specific, learnable skills: how to keep your kids out of the middle, how to stay connected when they’re pulling away, how to build a two-home family that still feels like a family. Those skills are the course.

What you’ll learn.

Six modules, plus a closing chapter. Each one a specific, practical piece of the work. You can move through them at your own pace, and come back to any of them whenever you need.

  1. Lesson 01

    Our Story and the Parents' Creed: Protecting Kids Starts Here

    We start with our own story, what we got right, what we got wrong, and what fifteen years of clinical work taught us about the first principles of protecting kids through divorce. You leave this module with a short, practical creed you can come back to when the hard moments hit.

  2. Lesson 02

    Understanding Your Kid's Emotional Landscape

    What's actually happening inside your child's brain and body during divorce. How to read the signals that tell you they're struggling, even when they won't say so. Age-by-age guidance for kids five through eighteen.

  3. Lesson 03

    Two Homes, One Consistent Life: Practical Ways to Support Your Child

    How to build a two-home family that still feels like a family to your child. Concrete tools for shared routines, transitions, and the small daily rituals that do more than any big conversation ever could.

  4. Lesson 04

    Caught in the Middle: Helping Your Child Navigate Parental Tension

    The specific moves to keep your kids out of the conflict, even when your co-parent won't do the same. How to recognize alienation early, and what to do (and not do) when you see it starting.

  5. Lesson 05

    Keep Your Kids Talking: Staying Connected Through the Storm

    When your child goes quiet, pulls away, or aligns with the other parent, how to stay connected without pushing. The everyday rituals that keep the door open, especially with teens.

  6. Lesson 06

    Beyond Survival: Defining Who Your Family Will Become

    The long view. How to move from surviving this transition to intentionally shaping what your family becomes on the other side. A framework for the family vision you'll carry forward together.

  7. Closing

    Wrapping Up

    A short closing chapter, Kerry and Palmer sitting with you on the other side of the work. What to hold onto, what to keep practicing.

Each module is 20 to 35 minutes of video, plus a short reflection prompt. You own the course for life.

Meet Kerry and Palmer.

Photograph of Kerry Stutzman.

Kerry Stutzman

LMFT · Parent Educator · Clinical Supervisor · EMDR-trained

When my kids were young, I went through a divorce I did not see coming. I was already a therapist. I still got so much wrong. I watched my children start to carry things no child should carry, and I couldn’t always see it clearly enough, fast enough, to stop it.

What I know now, from twenty-five years of clinical work, and from being the mom who walked through this, is that the parents who protect their kids best are not the ones who did divorce perfectly. There is no such thing. They’re the ones who kept learning, kept showing up, kept getting better at the specific skills that matter. That’s the work. That’s what I teach.

Photograph of Palmer Skudneski.

Palmer Skudneski

MA MFT (Northwestern) · Teen Success Coach · Speaker

I was the kid. I’m not going to sugarcoat it, it shaped me, and not all in ways I would have chosen.

What I can tell you, now that I’m a therapist and I work with teenagers who are living what I lived, is that the single biggest factor in how a kid comes out of a divorce is not whether their parents got along. It’s whether at least one adult stayed real with them. Stayed present. Didn’t make them manage the grown-ups’ feelings. That’s a learnable thing. My job, alongside my mom, is to teach it.

From parents who’ve done this work.

“I came to this course angry. At my ex, at the situation, at myself. Six weeks later I wasn't un-angry, but I had words for what was happening and things to actually do. My twelve-year-old started talking to me again around module four. I don't know how to explain what that meant.”

Sarah

mother of two

“I almost didn't buy this. I'd already done the court-mandated divorce class and it was useless. This one is not useless. It's the closest thing to sitting down with a family therapist I've found, and I could do it at 11pm after the kids were asleep.”

Marcus

father of three

“The module on alienation is the one that changed things for me. I'd been so focused on being right that I was missing what my son actually needed from me. Watching Kerry and Palmer talk about it together, a mom and her now-grown kid, made it real in a way I couldn't have gotten from a textbook.”

Jenna

mother of one

For attorneys, mediators, and therapists

If you’re the one the family is calling.

You see divorce before it gets to us. You’re the attorney on the intake call, the mediator in the room, the therapist holding the child’s side of the story. The choices you help parents make in those early weeks shape what lands in their kids’ long-term mental health.

We’ve put together a free set of resources for professionals, the Parents’ Creed, our warning signs of alienation checklist, and a short Divorce Professionals Creed we developed alongside colleagues in family law. Use what’s useful.

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One price. Lifetime access. Everything we’d tell a family in our office, available whenever you need it.

$137, one payment, lifetime access

Six modules plus the closing chapter. Roughly three hours of video. Short reflection prompts between modules. Downloadable parents’ creed and alienation warning-signs checklist.

You own it. You can revisit any module, anytime, forever. Your kids are going to need different things from you at different stages, we built this so you can come back.

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Questions parents ask us.

My ex isn't going to take this course. Is it still worth it for just me?

Yes. One engaged, emotionally available parent is the single strongest protective factor research has found for kids going through divorce. Your co-parent’s choices are their own. What you do in your home, with your kids, is the work you have control over. That work matters, whether or not it’s matched on the other side.

Is this course right for us? We're not in a high-conflict divorce.

If you and your co-parent are genuinely on the same page, the kids are doing okay, and nothing about this transition has caught you off guard, we’re glad. This course is probably not essential for you. It was built for the messier middle, where you’re doing your best and things are still hard.

My kids are older (or younger). Does this still apply?

The course is built for parents with kids anywhere from five to eighteen. The core skills, staying connected, keeping kids out of the middle, building a two-home family, apply across that range. Individual modules have age-specific guidance for preschool, elementary, tween, and teen. If your child is under five, about half the course will still apply; the emotional development material is geared to kids who can verbalize their feelings.

How long does it take?

About three hours of video across six modules, plus short reflection prompts between modules. Most parents spread it across two or three weeks. You can move faster or slower, you have lifetime access, so there’s no pressure to finish.

Is there a refund policy?

Yes. If the course isn’t what you needed, email us within thirty days and we’ll refund you fully. No form, no questions. We mean it.

Is any of this religious?

No. The course is entirely secular. Our approach is clinical and research-based. If a religious community or counselor recommended the course to you, it still works, the principles are universal and won’t conflict with religious practice.

Who is this course NOT for?

If there is active physical abuse, ongoing domestic violence, or a child safety concern in your family, this course is not the right tool. Those situations need professional and legal intervention first. If you’re in that situation, please contact a local domestic violence resource or family law attorney. Once safety is established, we’ll be here.

Your kids don’t need perfection. They need you to keep showing up.

That’s the whole thing. We built the course to help you do it.

Whenever you’re ready, we’ll be here.

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